Here we go.
How important are thank you notes? I grew up with a mom that required me to write and send a thank you note for every flippin' thing. I always thought it seemed silly to send a thank you note for something that I opened while the person was right there and I said "thank you" to their face, often with a hug and a kiss, and then again when they/we left the house. I still think it's silly. And I don't do it anymore (Write notes, that is. I do still thank the person in person, often with a hug and a kiss. As do my kids.) And I don't require my kids to do it. I know Miss Manners is probably reading right now and she is going to track me down and force me and my kids to write all those notes that are over due!
There is an exception, however. I do think notes are appropriate when you go to a party/celebration, say a wedding or graduation party, and you drop your gift at a table for the gifts to be opened at a later date, not in your presence. Then I think a thank you note is "required". Also, when a gift is received in the mail. Unless of course, you call the person to thank them directly, in which case, a thank you note is no longer necessary. Basically, though, as long as some kind of acknowledgement is given that the gift is appreciated, I don't think the thank you note itself is so important.
Recently, we were at my parents celebrating my dad's, my nephew's and my oldest son's birthdays. My parents invited long time friends over to have dinner with us. They were kind enough to give my son and my nephew each a gift. My mom, being the passive aggressive person she is, quietly, but loud enough for me to hear, said to Big E, "That was really nice of Judy. I am sure she would appreciate a thank you note." Really, my mom was saying two things:
- "Your mom has the etiquette skills of a moron, so I am telling you, in her presence so she can hear me and LEARN FROM ME, that a thank you note is appropriate"
- "I think it is important that you send a thank you note." Of course that "I" is my mom, not me.
What do you people think? Come on, I want to hear from all of you!