Monday, April 20, 2009
So now that we are in the early planning stages of this trip, I have been asked by many people "Your husband is allowing you to go on a girls only trip for that long? To Hawaii?" "How did you convince your husband to let you go on this trip?" "What does your husband say about you going away for that long? To Hawaii?" and the big one "Who is taking care of your kids while you are gone?"
To that last question, I always find it hard to keep my mouth from dropping to the ground. Let's see. I am married and my kids have two parents. When one parent is gone, who usually takes care of the kids? THE OTHER PARENT! It seems so obvious to me that my husband will be taking care of our kids while I am gone. Will he have some help? Maybe. He may hire a sitter once or twice. He may ask a neighbor to get a kid off the bus. He may even ask his parents or mine to come help out for a day or two. But all of that will be up to him. Mainly, he will be the one taking care of the kids while I am gone. I am surprised when people are surprised by this. He did agree to parent these kids and that means taking care of them in my absence. I don't think I would have had kids with someone who wouldn't do that.
As for the other questions, MG and I don't "allow" each other to do anything - we don't ask permission and we don't do a sales pitch to "convince" one another. We do discuss and then we make decisions based on one another's input. And the decision that's made is NOT always the one that each would have preferred, but is generally accepted by each of us. That's called compromise and we are pretty good at it. His input to this trip? "Go! Have fun! I can't wait to see the pictures." I don't think I would be married to someone who reacted any differently.
PS: My hubs also gets away with friends for vacations, so don't think this is a one sided event! : )
PSS: We also enjoy vacationing with just the two of us and as an entire family!