Anyway, my point is not about SATC, or Cynthia Nixon specifically, but about the lovers lesbians sometimes choose and the lesbians some women become. I will use Cynthia Nixon's son, I mean boyfriend, I mean GIRLFRIEND as an example. Have you seen this man, I mean woman? When I first saw the picture in People magazine (I was at the dentist's office waiting for Big E while he got his teeth cleaned), I literally thought "oh look, she took her teenage son to a dinner with her." Then I read the caption and thought surely it was a typo when it said "girlfriend." Oh.my.god. That picture is really of a woman. I don't mind the lesbian aspect at all. What I wonder, though, is what attracts a woman, who is not attracted to men, to a woman WHO LOOKS LIKE A MAN? And I don't mean a tomboyish looking woman, but really looks like a man. And what inspires a woman, who is not attracted to men, to look like a man and then attract women? I have spent a lot more time with gay men than lesbian women and I haven't noticed this happening in the male relationships. Yes, I have met effiminate men and often it is clear who is the more dominant partner, just like in heterosexual couples. But I have not men who downright look like women, unless they are dressed in drag or having a gender reassignment and I am not addressing those issues here. And I am not trying to be judgmental, I am truly curious about this. I really think if I was born a lesbian (and yes, I think sexual orientation is a birth right, not a choice), which I am not (not that's there's anything wrong with that!), I would be attracted to a WOMAN. A woman who looks like a woman. But apparently that is not the case in many relationships and I would love to understand that.
I found two pictures of Cynthia Nixon's girlfriend. I couldn't find the one from People magazine, so these will have to do.